Ditching Creeps

When meeting someone new, find common interests but don’t share any personal information. Keep your home address, financial details, usernames/passwords, and any other important information out of the conversation.

Before meeting someone new, get on a video call first. This will help you determine if you click before you meet and also help you validate they are who they say they are.

If you feel uncomfortable with someone, it’s okay to end the meet up or cut off all communications. Feeling uncomfortable is normal and could be a sign you suspect you are unsafe or you simply don’t feel like the vibes are right. If they respect you, they will understand.

Never meet someone new for the first time without informing a friend or loved one first. Tell them who you are meeting, where you plan on going, and when you plan on checking in with them.

Always have an exit plan and know where you can go if you suspect you’re in danger. This could be a safe place or a safe person. Ask a friend beforehand if they would be able to pick you up if you need help.

Pick a public place in an area you know well. Meeting at home or work can be dangerous if the person isn’t who you think they are. Suggest a coffee shop or a restaurant.

Try to avoid drugs and alcohol during a first meet-up. They might help you feel more comfortable, but they can also soften your critical thinking skills. If you do engage in substance use, set limits for yourself and stick to them.

Don’t let drinks or food out of your sight. If you start feeling odd, talk to the server, the bartender, or another member of the staff.

Live or Motion photos may include location data. What is in your background could also tip someone off to your location. Make sure the digital information you share doesn’t include personal identifiable information.

It’s okay to do some research about someone before you meet them for the first time. Talk to people who know them and check out their social media if you can. If there is no variety in their pictures, or their profiles are generic, exercise caution.

Boundaries are something we determine and set for ourselves within a relationship based on our needs and experiences. It’s okay to say no.

Let others know what kind of relationships and activities you are looking for and don’t let others pressure you into something you don’t want to participate in.